I know a girl like that. It’s hard to watch them get hurt over and over again as they continue to go back to their “boyfriend”. I don’t know how to help her, and I don’t know how to help you. But I’ll tell you what I told her, and hopefully you can make the right decision.
At the beginning of the relationship, everything is perfect. They help you, they compliment you, they share your problems, they listen, they behave the way a good boyfriend should behave. And you fall in love with them, and how they make you feel. You feel like you couldn’t go back to your old life because they make you feel better.
But then the tables turn… they begin to discard your feelings, they use you for their own desires, and get angry when you try and antagonise them. But you can’t help but remember those initial days, and so you wait it out, because you love them and are willing to stay in order to get the good times back. So you wait… and wait… and wait… and wait… and wait. And you never really get it, because you’re still looking for it. You’re waiting for a train that’s never coming. You’re patient because you love them, and because you love them, you hold onto the past. Soon, all that becomes of your relationship is the good times you used to have.
I’m sorry about what I’m about to say, but you need to realise that the love is gone. He doesn’t love you anymore, and you’re only hurting yourself by staying. On the first sign of trouble, he’s going to remind you of all the good times you used to have. He’s going to become the boyfriend you deserve… but when he’s got you again, he’ll go back. He doesn’t love you, he just wants you… When you have someone wrapped so tightly around your finger, it feels powerful. He knows that your feelings for him are what control you, and he uses it to keep you with him.
Please, don’t do this to yourself.
There are good people in the world, better people. I hope you have the confidence and determination to do what’s best for yourself. But it’s your life, and so you should do what you think is best.
There are people who love you, and while you don’t know me, know that there will always be at least one person who understands, and can help you.
I wish you the best.